Our hearts are made to live in the larger story that God intended for us to live in. but somehow, somewhat we lose sight of that bigger story. So we created our smaller stories to live in and to survive.
All these smaller stories offer a taste of meaning, adventure and connectedness. But none offer the real thing. They are not large enough. God has set eternity in the hearts of man. Yet people are not living for eternity. That is where the problem is. We are trapped in the present.
Sunday, June 29, 2008
Thursday, June 5, 2008
Office Bully & Victim
Attended the course: School Bullying Issues and Prevention Approaches.
I began to think about my office, whether I am a bully or a victim. Being in a nice environment where most people are easy-going and loving, I think I can never be a victim. Maybe once in a while I find myself stuck with listening to a self-centered colleague. This one really loves to talk about herself! Oh my goodness! Nvm la, I just comfort myself and say that some people just need to be heard and validated. Even counselors have their own issues la..
I belong to the group that people would categorise as bully.. haha.. But i only show it to one person. I am amazed at the agression I can expressed to the colleague I have problem with. I tried keeping my peace, but I guess he just pick the wrong to wanna "talk things out". The talking things out time is usually a time for him to defend himself. This really provoked me and I just unleashed all my pent up frustration.
What perpetuate matters is that he dare not look at me while we talk. So, I found my frustration rising and scolding increases. Sad to say that at the end of the day, I lost all respect for him.
So people, when you get bullied, pls stand up for yourself. This will make the bully at least respect you. If you just run away, the bullying will worsen. This comes from the point of view of a bully. Maybe I should say a repentant bully. I dont want to tear him down anymore.
God protect me from the evil one, and lead me not into temptation.
I began to think about my office, whether I am a bully or a victim. Being in a nice environment where most people are easy-going and loving, I think I can never be a victim. Maybe once in a while I find myself stuck with listening to a self-centered colleague. This one really loves to talk about herself! Oh my goodness! Nvm la, I just comfort myself and say that some people just need to be heard and validated. Even counselors have their own issues la..
I belong to the group that people would categorise as bully.. haha.. But i only show it to one person. I am amazed at the agression I can expressed to the colleague I have problem with. I tried keeping my peace, but I guess he just pick the wrong to wanna "talk things out". The talking things out time is usually a time for him to defend himself. This really provoked me and I just unleashed all my pent up frustration.
What perpetuate matters is that he dare not look at me while we talk. So, I found my frustration rising and scolding increases. Sad to say that at the end of the day, I lost all respect for him.
So people, when you get bullied, pls stand up for yourself. This will make the bully at least respect you. If you just run away, the bullying will worsen. This comes from the point of view of a bully. Maybe I should say a repentant bully. I dont want to tear him down anymore.
God protect me from the evil one, and lead me not into temptation.
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