To be understood is to be loved

Read this great book tt tells alot about fear. Specifically, the fear of being known by others..

Identify especially abt this part where it says we feel loved when we are understood. I may be in the midst of many, but if I am not understood, there will be a sense of aloneness. Gifts and talents can bring no comfort.

To be understood is to love. To try to understand is being loving.. How many times have I felt lonely/alone when I dun think I am understood. How frustrating it is when others cannot seem to understand our point.. N how many times have I not love others when I fail to understand them. How frustrating is it for me when I dun see eye to eye with others abt issues.. Perhaps the solution is to understand.. Or at least seek to understand..

I often hear, "People seperate because of understanding-因为了解而分手" But I guess, people go their seperate ways because there is no understanding.. Or there is an inability to understand, or a lack of effort to understand until its too late.. way too late..

I dunno which one motivates which one? Love motivates understanding? Or understanding motivates love.. I dunno.. Jus a question in my mind. If u have any brilliant idea, pls let me know.. =)